Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?
This may have been one of the most powerful pieces of advice even given to me. My sponsor shared this with me a few years ago and it literally changed my life. For me, it’s my natural instinct to want to correct someone, make them see it my way, or prove I’m right. I find myself trying to make someone understand my side of the story when we clearly have different perspectives. A lot of the time, this doesn’t end well. The thing is, everybody is entitled to their own opinion and perspective, and that’s fine. Sometimes a conversation or a debate between two people can be productive and end on a positive note and other times, not so much. The key for me is identifying when a situation isn’t going in a good direction and knowing when to shut up. Sometimes it’s because things are emotionally charged, somebody doesn’t have all the facts, or somebody just wants to argue. (That might be me) It’s so much easier to walk away and be happy than it is to stay in the situation trying to be “right”. The movie War games comes to mind, “The only winning move is not to play.”